The day your pregnancy test comes positive, you feel over the moon if that’s what you were expecting at first place. You start counting days to the due date and you download an app on your mobile which will update you as you progress in your pregnancy. You start looking forward to your doctor trips because you are impatiently waiting to get to know the gender so you can start shopping. Everything looks perfect and you feel happy and content.
You feel excited to welcome your new baby and decorate your room, set your baby things up and patiently wait for your baby to pop out. But there are things that no one will tell you about before your delivery. In fact, no one will tell you these things even after the baby is born instead, you will experience it yourself.
No one will tell you that it’s not going to be a easy journey no matter how many kids you have.
No one will tell you that it will test your patience and tolerance to a level one could not even imagine.
No one will tell you that once you deliver the baby, days followed by your delivery day will be painfully tiring and exhausting. You will be sleep deprived, feel week, and have to gather every ounce of energy left in your body to go take a shower and change. Some days you won’t even get time to comb your hair.
No one will tell you that you will feel scared to go to the washroom to pee because stitches will hurt.
No one will tell you to be ready to be pee-ed and poop-ed at.
No one will tell you that you might have to switch to another room with your baby every night until baby’s sleep pattern improves so your husband can sleep peacefully because he has to go to work.
Some days your household will be in a complete mess, dishes waiting to be washed and laundry waiting to be put away and toys scattered everywhere.
Despite this, all of these struggles will be worth it and easily forgotten when you see your baby grow day by day, achieving new milestones and seeing them learning new things will make your heart fill with pure joy. By the end of the day, when you will look at their innocent face, tap on your back and appreciate yourself for bringing your little human being into this world and be grateful that you have been blessed with a title called as ‘MOM’. Each phase will pass and they will grow up and you will be left with memories to cherish. So if it’s tough, its equally rewarding and a BLESSING.
As they grow, they become aware of their surroundings. They will become naughty explorers and observers, wanting to touch and feel and play with anything and everything they can get their hands on.
Next time when you see a mommy juggling between raising a kid and finishing household chores, do not judge her just because they do not fulfill the requirement of ‘cleanliness’ you have created in your mind. Instead, be kind and offer help. Show understanding rather than speaking ill about someone or someone else’s children behind their back.
So mommies and mommies-to-be, whenever you feel down or is having a hard day, close your eyes for few seconds and flashback to all the good memories you have made. It will alleviate your mood and you’ll feel relaxed.
“I know it can be hard to get up everyday and have these little people rely on you. I know it’s hard to feel like sometimes your world is so small. I want to remind you, you are the world. You are the world that those little ones revolve around, you are their nurture, their home and their comfort. You are everything to them., and I hope even on your hard days you know how special you are. Especially to your little people.” – Anonymus